Why do I have a problem?

There's a big yellow boot on your car. That might have bothered you but you can't drive anyway since your license was suspended weeks ago for driving under the influence. But you're used to that, it's the third time you've been busted in the last five years. And it doesn't really matter because since you lost your job you don't really have anywhere to go except maybe to the dealer but he delivers, and since you owe him a couple hundred bucks you're not about to invite him over for some Chianti and a game of chess.

You tell yourself you're just having a little cash flow problem and it will all straighten out as soon as your unemployment checks start coming. But the forms are still sitting on your coffee table so it's going to be a while.

Why is the alcoholic or addict always the last to know they have a problem?
Maybe it's biggest drug addicts are eternal optimists... The sun will always shine tomorrow. Maybe the sun will only shine only as long as you have drugs. And when you don't, the sun definitely ain't shining. Matter of fact it looks like there's a big storm on the horizon and you're right in the middle of it.No one wants to admit that they have a problem especially when it comes to abusing drugs or alcohol.

When it's obvious to everyone around you, family, friends, co-workers. Even the guy at the 7/11 knowsyou're messed up.If you overheard someone telling your story you would probably say that person has a big problem. So why can't you admit it about yourself?

Your life is an absolute mess and yet, you will still insist, until you drop dead, to deny the facts. Even when the truth is staring you right in the face. What does the truth have to do? Hit you over the head with a baseball bat? Sometimes even that's not enough for you to change.

This is the insanity of alcoholism and drug addiction.We're taught since birth to never give up. It's human nature, survival of the fittest to not admit defeat. Unfortunately, when it comes to drug addiction, our instinct for survival is what kills us. Because an alcoholic or an addict has to admit that drugs and booze have kicked us to the curb before they can begin the process of recovery. It's the exact opposite of everything we've grown up to believe: That one can beat this thing through sheer will power.

It's like getting caught in a riptide. The more you fight it, the worse it gets. You have to let go and let the tide take you down the shore. If you surrender and go with the flow, you live. If not, youdrown. in this case in a sea of misery, drugs and alcohol.

So how do you surrender and join the winning side? A recovery home with a structured program that's based on the 12-steps is a safe and secure place to do just that. For an alcoholic/addict, lying is a way of life. They have been lying to everyone including themselves for so long that most of the time they don't even know they're lying. So is it possible for an alcoholic/addict to really learn how to be truthful and live a sober life? Absolutely! In a recovery home with a program based on teaching honesty and integrity through the resident's actions not their intentions.But changing one's behavior doesn't happen overnight. It takes time to undo years of learned bad behavior. That's why it is so crucial for the alcoholic/addict to enter a long-term programthat only a structured recovery home can offer. A place where they will learn how to stay sober while they face their fears and faults together with the support of other alcoholics and addicts.

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